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1-2-1: Tasks aren't clarity

Liam Darmody
Liam Darmody
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A question that keeps coming up in coaching: "How do I give my team ownership without losing control?"

You hired someone for their judgement. Then you gave them a task list.


1 Principle

Task lists don't develop capability. They replace it.

Every task you prescribe is a decision you made for them. Over time, that sends a message: don't think, just execute. Capable people don't leave because the work is hard. They leave because the work stopped asking them to think. The capability you hired them for quietly atrophies.


2 Things Top of Mind

#1 Capability quietly disappears

I watched this happen with a senior PM I was coaching. She'd joined a team as one of the most experienced people in the room. Within three months, she was executing tickets and had stopped proposing anything. When I asked what changed, she said: "They already know what they want. They just need someone to do it." She wasn't wrong. The system had told her exactly that.

This week: Pick one person on your team who you know is capable of more. Replace their next task assignment with an outcome and context: "Here's what success looks like. Here's the context. How would you approach this?"

#2 Ownership is a culture choice, not a process hack

Real ownership means the person can change the approach if they find a better one. If they have to follow your plan regardless, that's task execution dressed up as autonomy. Your team knows the difference immediately, even if they don't say it.

This week: In your next project kickoff, share the outcome and constraints but don't share a plan. Ask the team to propose one. If you find yourself wanting to override their approach, notice whether your discomfort is about quality or about control.


1 Question

Where are you prescribing tasks when you could be describing outcomes?


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Liam Darmody

I’m a leadership coach and product advisor. I work with senior product and engineering leaders during periods of transition and growth, helping them regain clarity, align teams, and perform sustainably under pressure.


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